Do you know what I hate? I hate when I’m walking towards a door and there’s someone several yards in front of me. I just know that the person in front of me will hold the door for me (especially if it’s a dude) and I will curse him or her in my head/under my breath.
Why do I get mad at someone who thinks he’s doing a good deed? Because I don’t think he’s doing a good deed. In fact, I think he’s being a selfish asshole. See, in that situation, where someone is holding a door open for me even though I wasn’t particularly close to the door when they went through it, I feel like an asshole if I don’t speed up and relieve them of their door-holding as quickly as possible. And that’s not fair. I was perfectly content with whatever speed I was walking. Who the hell are you to make me walk faster?
I don’t know, maybe normal people aren’t bothered by this. But it has been a pet peeve of mine for ages.
So here’s my suggestion: If the person walking behind you is more than 3 or 4 steps back, don’t stand there and hold the door. I’m sure most people would not fault you for that. There’s an obvious caveat to my suggestion, however: If you can tell that the person walking behind you will have difficulty opening the door (because he’s pushing a stroller or her arms are full of boxes), then you stand there and hold the damn door. In that case, you’re an asshole if you don’t hold the door open.